How to find your flow
Remember the time you were so absorbed in something that you didn’t notice the time flying?
Being in ‘flow’ is a natural state of connection to an activity, where you are fully in tune with what you’re doing and totally connected to the process of the activity. It could be leading a presentation, running, cooking, gardening, writing, planning a party or even balancing the books. It doesn’t matter what the activity is, what’s important are the characteristics of that activity which creates this sense of deep satisfaction and purpose.
In Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi writes
‘Contrary to what we usually believe…the best moments in our lives are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times – although such experiences can also be enjoyable, if we have worked hard to attain them. The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to the limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile.’
When you’re feeling stuck it can seem like the flow has disappeared from life. But flow can be found in the most unlikely of places. Start to notice which activities really absorb you, and pay attention to:
· What you’re actually doing – are you creating something/seeing a task through from beginning to end/bringing people together
· How you feel in this process – are you energized or relaxed?
· Who you’re with – are you alone, with friends or new acquaintances?
With your new awareness of what triggers your state of flow, make space for those moments. What doors do they open for you?